Good to hear you have 90+K on brakes, I have 45,000 on mine with no issues.
Note, a highway driver with 90k miles might have less brake wear than a city driver with 30k miles.
The softer the pad the more wear on the pad and the less on the rotor so I can usually replace the pads a couple of times without even turning the rotors.
Exactly, decide what you want but most people would want softer pads producing less wear on rotors. Though rotors are usually $20 a pair these days - they are meant to be replaced. (at least they were $20/pair for my previous Isuzu which was great)
Instead of turning rotors I usually just replace them as turning reduces the thickness of the rotor and they will heat up faster and be more prone to crack. I can easily switch rotors and I have to get someone like NAPA to turn them and it takes more time and does not save a lot. I used organic pads from Autozone on a G35 that is famous for using pads fast but had good luck with them
Not sure where you live GAXIBM but most reputable shops will not turn rotors without a minimum thickness. Since most product today (I'd say all but I don't know 100%) is made to be cheaper and lighter, the rotors supplied are likely universally un-turnable like the old days. The moment there is a groove, the rotor should be replaced. However, I've been known to just put cheap pads on a grooved rotor to go one more brake change. On my Isuzu I needed brakes every 20k miles, so 90k is amazing!