Wow, 20 lbs on an auto??? - Search through the threads and you will see that mine is the first "sport-mode" auto ( Mazda's official name ) which will be pushing 8 lbs of boost.
I would recommend you look at a Quaiffe LSD, forged internals, and the Level Ten Torque Converter. Have you considered how much horsepower you are looking for? $6000 is a decent amount of money, hell, it will even leave you with some left over on a stage 2 install. But to push 20 lbs of boost, you are going to need to do alot more than just purchase a few things.
To the best of my knowledge, Nicks will be the only kits that ship complete. This includes, all hoses, fittings, clamps, etc.
Take a look at these threads to get an idea of what is available from Perf.
http://www.protege5.com/vbb225/showthread.php?s=&threadid=22842
http://www.protege5.com/vbb225/showthread.php?s=&threadid=22584
On a side note, - what do you mean you can't just get up and leave? Doesn't the armed forces give time off? I can't imagine not being able to take a vacation with a weeks notice. I guess it's good if you are into it though. Me, I'd rather work my 8-5 M-F and enjoy my freedom; but I must say that I am glad there are some who are willing to sacrifice their own freedom to ensure the rest of ours.
Now before the flames start, I have friends who are in the USAF, and ARMY, and even Coast Guard and INS; I respect what they have chosen to do.... it's just not for me. They have great retirement options and educational options, and while their pay isn't the greatest, it's not all bad either. Most of them are making $36k-$40k. They will be able to retire by the time they are 35. Sacrifice now, or sacrifice later I guess.