Background info, we split 5 weeks ago after dating for 2 years. Id heard rumors that she was seeing someone, but nothing could be confirmed.
Sunday night i go out to meet some friends at a bar and as im walking in, i think i see her car, but its a gray VW bug, so i could have been anyones. I get inside and look for my friends, they werent there. So i get in line for a drink and the place is packed. Im sitting there waiting and at the other end of the bar i look up and see my ex and some dude with his arms wrapped around her kissing her neck. Upon looking closer, i see that its a buddy of mine that i hadnt seen in a few weeks. I didnt know what to think. Then he sees me and takes his arms off her and nods at me. Then she sees me, grabs him and pulls him down and kisses him. then i was pissed and i dont know why.
So, i go to the other side of the bar and talk to them and order us all a round of drinks, trying to show her that i dont care and to show him, that im cool with him seeing her (not that my opinion on the matter should mean anything to him). We and Matt (her guy) talk for a few and i occasionally throw something out at her trying to make small talk and she wont say a thing to me.
Thats the short versions with a few details left out, but there it is.
I dont know why its bothering me, i dont ever want to date her again, and if he can treat the way i should have, im happy for him too, but for some damn reason, its bugged the hell out of me.
Theres so much stuff i want to say to him about her, but i wont out of respect for him and so that i dont stir up an unnecessary s***. I do want to talk to him and in some way let him know that him dating her doesnt bother me without it making it sound like im giving him permission or something, but i dont know how to say it.
I dont know, i knew this day would eventually come ( i never would have thought so soon) and i thought id be able to handle it better, but it just hit me and i really dont know what im thinking or what to do.
Thanks for listening to me rant, if anyone has ever been here before, what did you do? All suggestions and advice is welcome.
Thanks
Justin
Sunday night i go out to meet some friends at a bar and as im walking in, i think i see her car, but its a gray VW bug, so i could have been anyones. I get inside and look for my friends, they werent there. So i get in line for a drink and the place is packed. Im sitting there waiting and at the other end of the bar i look up and see my ex and some dude with his arms wrapped around her kissing her neck. Upon looking closer, i see that its a buddy of mine that i hadnt seen in a few weeks. I didnt know what to think. Then he sees me and takes his arms off her and nods at me. Then she sees me, grabs him and pulls him down and kisses him. then i was pissed and i dont know why.
So, i go to the other side of the bar and talk to them and order us all a round of drinks, trying to show her that i dont care and to show him, that im cool with him seeing her (not that my opinion on the matter should mean anything to him). We and Matt (her guy) talk for a few and i occasionally throw something out at her trying to make small talk and she wont say a thing to me.
Thats the short versions with a few details left out, but there it is.
I dont know why its bothering me, i dont ever want to date her again, and if he can treat the way i should have, im happy for him too, but for some damn reason, its bugged the hell out of me.
Theres so much stuff i want to say to him about her, but i wont out of respect for him and so that i dont stir up an unnecessary s***. I do want to talk to him and in some way let him know that him dating her doesnt bother me without it making it sound like im giving him permission or something, but i dont know how to say it.
I dont know, i knew this day would eventually come ( i never would have thought so soon) and i thought id be able to handle it better, but it just hit me and i really dont know what im thinking or what to do.
Thanks for listening to me rant, if anyone has ever been here before, what did you do? All suggestions and advice is welcome.
Thanks
Justin