Pipes hard to get off turbo

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97camaroSS e30 318is Spicy #1348
Im getting ready to replace my exhaust mani gasket and cannot the pipe from the turbo to the IC off! Feels like its gonna crack if I pull any harder than I already have. I wanna have as much room as possible without having to taking the turbo off the mani(ive read here it can be done by many with an extra set of hands). Any tricks to getting these to budge? These are the stock ones, btw.

Also, anyone ever had a leak and not be able to find it? I see no black carbon anywhere, but I hear it for sure. It goes away as the car puts heats on the gasket/mani. Its coming from the lower passenger side of the gasket
 
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