My 35W HIDs are no brighter than 3/4 of whatever everyone else is running these days so that argument is less and less true every model yr. Point them down some and drive. There is a point where they are effective and no one flashing you. Point of reference.......lows point down so far that my brights have yellow bulbs and now work as fog lights closer to the car with the HIDs hitting just out from there. That being said, I do have a pr of retros with jiggly projectors scored for very reasonable price that need to be baked open and tightened up. Just haven't gotten to it.
+2 on DDM kit....have had mine for 10 yrs or so and still great. Haven't had to swap a bulb or ballast. It does have the battery harness. Worth it IMO.
ddm are cheaper kit thats usually fairly reliable. ive had them in a couple cars ive owned. basically a plug and play swap. down side is putting hids in a halogen housing scatters light everywhere and lots of people frown on that. cops too. morimoto minis are more expensive and require more work to install however they are legal and focus the light out in front of the vehicle. ive had mine for over 7 years. the newer minis can use the 50w hid kits for even more light if needed. they wont damage the reflector bowls in the new kits. ive been very pleased with 35w as i do mostly city driving. if you do alot of country driving the 50w might be a better kit for you. either way projectors will help keep the law from stopping you.