From the SomethingAwful forums:
"ESL student papers on their sexual conflicts or the Chinese hate the 'gina"
So I TA for this Variations of Human Sexuality class (as Iíve posted before). We, the TAs, are in the process of grading the studentsí papers on their sexual conflicts. We have a lot of ESL (English as a Second Language) kids in this 500-person class.
So far, the papers have been hilarious even though I know itís not the their intent. Iím providing an abridged copy of one the ESL papers. This kid has recently come here from China. As you can see his command of the English language is sub-par and he
really doesnít understand some American phrases (i.e. ďPractice really makes things go perfect.Ē ďthose words already drove me like a nut.Ē). Iím tempted to make a flash animation out of this.
It back to three years ago I met my girl friend Wendy whom is an ABC (American born Chinese). Because of her fluent Chinese, out relationship developed extremely fast. It was out of my expectation. Although both of our culture difference made us feel not so compatible, We did have sex, which happened in her new
moving apartment in fall 2000. It was my first time. I was not sure what I was doing. I was so nerved I couldnít remember that night what I did. However, After that, we started gradually do more and more, Sometimes I felt very good after I did that Ė having sex. However, good time didnít last too long. I felt
Wendy no happy somehow. She complained that I ended so
fast and did not know how to make her happy Ė having an orgasm. I admitted that because I never had that kind of experience and even when I was in school I hadnít have the kind of sex course in my country. Anyway Wendy at this point helped me a lot. She served me wildly, taught me patiently, and showed me what technique I need to. Practice really makes things go
After a few time practices, I found a way to make Wendy feel better. When I had sex with her, I played her breast, touched her nibbles; sometimes bit her tits lightly for what she felt good. I used my mouth to suck her tits, stomach, back, arms, legs, hair but her pussy. I used my figures to stimulate her, to rub her pussy, to tickle her clitoris. All of those were good. It was good for her. It made her feel some kind of orgasm. But it only could be good for a while. After a couple of weeks she needed more I didnít know where she had a crazy idea. She wanted me to lick her pussy. No way at all, I responded her right away. This was out of my toleration. I know what it was, I told. I wouldnít do that because I didnít like it. Maybe girls would do that to their boyfriend. Not men like to have oral sex to women as what I knew in my country, I told her. We discussed it many times. She tried to convince my by giving some pictures that a man perform oral sex to a woman, telling many stories about what her friends told her. A couple of times, she took off my pants and sucked my dick and used her tongue to lick my dick head in order to make me do the same way for her. I didnít know what I could say. Honestly, I appreciated what she did to me. However, it got in my nerve already about licking pussy. ďGo down there and lick my pussy, ok? Please honey!Ē those words already drove me like a nut. I really mad at her keep asking me to do that. Sometimes when I heard, I went crazy I was so piss off; I was angry, upset; I felt frustrated, shame, humiliated and disappointed. All of negative mixed feeling came in once in my head. I blew it out many times.
Oral sex like licking pussy because a big issue between her and me. It was our sexual conflict. Frankly, I donít like pussy smell, I hate that kind of smell. No matter how clean she did it, I didnít like it. I remained remember that she took a longtime shower and used an expensive soap even had perfume on her. I felt disgusting. A few times I almost throw out when I tried to tongue her clitoris. I donít know what is wrong to me. I liked to kiss her back, tits, stomach, neck and outside around of pussy, which I didnít have any problems. My mouth didnít feel sensitive to anything until touched the pussy. I always asked myself how I couldnít do it. It was very easy thing. Perhaps it was psychology obstacle and culture influence. When men gathered together in my counryt, we can hear that how well their girl did to them such as blowjob. Anyway, I donít like to lick pussy because I donít the smell; I feel sick; I donít like to be teased when talk with my Chinese friends about that I already lick pussy. Especially, I need to over come and dump those sick ideals like pussy is dirt and lick it brings unlucky and so on. In addition, I didnít like she said me like a gay because of the way I fuck was so gentle. I promised her that I would change my fucking style and tried hard to overcome all the obstacles. But it needed to take time.
One Wendyís side, I understood that Wendy was angry very much without oral sex even though I tried hard to find the way to work out. She told me what her friend said that womanís orgasm would be better stimulated by tongue than dick or figures. She also claimed that most of time she could reach to peak point or make the orgasm last a little longer because I needed to pull out to avoiding cum in insider. She explained what her girl friends feel that it was extremely exciting. Sometimes I could tell she had a little bite of sadness. Fortunately, we still have sex at least twice a week and she had orgasm by my figures and dick fuck.
Oral sex issue is still holding on. She seems understand that we can have a sex pleasure by using different styles such as up and down, in side way, from back, oral sex and sometimes asks anal sex which I did not do for her too. Even Thought I didnít do oral sex for her, I still please her very much by performing figure fuck.
In conclusion, after a couple of conversations, both of us understand what we need and bottom line is. She respects me and doesnít push me to perform eat pussy game. She enjoys what I can do to her and feel very happy. I feel more comfortable and relax when I have sex with Wendy. Our love seems get fulfilled.