I love my wife.

[Mid_Life_Crisis]

Sunday morning we're lying around talking and the subject of the SP3 comes up. She knows I'm trying to figure out how to budget in new rims for it.
She says, "didn't you want to get springs or something for it too?". Almost any other woman and this would be a prelude to, "you need to make up your mind what you want." Then she says, "we're selling your bike because you got tired of dodging idiots in cars who aren't paying attention. Can you buy the rims and tires if you take whatever is left over from selling the bike after we pay the note?" My ex-wife would have already had that money allocated to stuff she wanted for the house. This woman has the simple (and fair) notion that money from one of my toys should rightfully go to one of my other toys.
Later we're in the car and she asks if I decided which tires to get. I explain that I want Falken 615 but I can't even pretend that they are a reasonable year round tire for North Carolina. Fortunately, the same company makes another tire that handles almost as well and I could make them go year round (452). She thinks on that for a few seconds and says, "if you're going to get new rims, why don't you get the tires you really want on those and put winter tires on the factory rims?"
Is there any question why I love this woman?

[sprinter119]

ahhhh man my wife just about kills me anytime i ask to do something to my car. She things ill grow outta this car thing but shes wrong. Your a lucky man

[SMITTNME]

Awww sweet :) I def agree...money from one toy should go towards another toy! I def think it's important to have hobbies (as long as your aren't drowning yourself in debt over something), so why not spend some of your extra money on something else that you love? :)

[lasermp5]

sounds like a winner to me!

[mckraut]

How to speak Australian, KEEPAH!

[SwampAss]

All my wife gave me was her heart. By heart I mean "herpes".

[Alejo_NIN]

hehehe, my wife is doing almost the same...
yesterday on the way to a meet we were talking about what would be another car i would get and stuff and she goes and says she wants a black small car....i'm thinking...weren't you so against having a small car and that's the reaosn why we bought a suv?...anyways, i tell her that the only way in hell she will have a "black" car, which most likely will be a honda civic Si, will be if she learns how to drive stick....and she just smiled and said ok...

threw me off!!
fuck, now i gotta teach her how to drive stick and buy her a new car!!!
i was not expecting that

[Mid_Life_Crisis]

How to speak Australian, KEEPAH!

I love that commercial!
Funny that you brought up beer. I'm always looking for new beers to try.
Yesterday we checked out BJs and I got kind of lost in the electronic section, and when I look up she's down the aisle halfway down the store. I catch up and realize she's standing by the end cap for the beer section. I look down and there is a case of Sam Adams there. But it is one of those "sample" cases, with 6 different beers, 4 of each kind, and every one is a type you would only find in a specialty store, nothing run of the mill. My eyes lit up and she says, "yeah, that's why I stopped here. I figured you'd want to see that."

[Packerfan]

If she Nagged me she wouldnt be my wife period bottom line.

[jbiird317]

All my wife gave me was her heart. By heart I mean "herpes".

its the gift that keeps on giving....

[~JoJo~]

Def a keeper! That's why I always tell my friends to buy all your toys BEFORE you get married, otherwise, I would never be able to buy a snake, and the bike. It was there BEFORE you dear, so they are staying =p

[mckraut]

I love that commercial!
Funny that you brought up beer. I'm always looking for new beers to try.
Yesterday we checked out BJs and I got kind of lost in the electronic section, and when I look up she's down the aisle halfway down the store. I catch up and realize she's standing by the end cap for the beer section. I look down and there is a case of Sam Adams there. But it is one of those "sample" cases, with 6 different beers, 4 of each kind, and every one is a type you would only find in a specialty store, nothing run of the mill. My eyes lit up and she says, "yeah, that's why I stopped here. I figured you'd want to see that."

I don't know what you're into, but try Birra Moretti (Italian), Sapporo (Japanese) Stella Artois (Belgium), & Smithwicks (Irish). Some of my favorite beers currently.

[evilmonkeyMSP]

omg Stella.....soooooooooo FTW

[AutoXRacer]

I don't understand this whole notion of "asking for permission" or coordinating with your wife or significant other to spend money...? (huh)
(scratch)

Aren't you guys the men of the house? Don't you work hard for your money? Aren't you responsible enough to know whether you can or can not afford to spend a certain amount without affecting your allotted budget...?

I'm not married, but do live with my girlfriend...she has her bank account and I have mine. We pay all bills 50/50 and we spend money on toys!!!
Of course we are responsible and don't over spend...but if she wants something for the house...she goes out and buys it, if its something big, furniture, appliance, etc...we split it 50/50. She spends on her computer stuff (she's a tech geek), DVDs, SHOES, CLOTHES, etc...and I spend on mountain bikes and cars... She even gives me presents in form of gift cards to my favorite (car and bike) vendors... In Feb, I saw the 73" wide screen and I fell in love with it...I told my girlfriend I was going to buy it...we are paying 50/50 for it!!!! Of course, she watches it more than I do though... (lol2)

I don't know... I've spent over $3000 on my car thats less than 6 months old...no issues. And she knows all about it since she sees me wrenching and I always take her for a ride after the mod is in place... She even asks me whats next!!!! lol That could be to have an idea for gifts!!! The other day she said I was easy to shop for...bike or car...she just has to get the timing right to know which one I'm concentrating on at the time... (lol2)

I don't get it...am I missing something?

[ehidle]

Consider yourself very lucky. :D

My airplane toys are insanely more expensive than any car toys... this is why I need to find a woman who is into flying :)

[Bravnik]

I don't get it...am I missing something?


You're not Married. All that shit you get away with changes the moment you get Married. Slowly, but it changes. We all thought the same thing when we LIVED with our future wives. So just wait till you marry your GF and see how it changes (omg)

[mckraut]

You're not Married. All that shit you get away with changes the moment you get Married. Slowly, but it changes. We all thought the same thing when we LIVED with our future wives. So just wait till you marry your GF and see how it changes (omg)

Agreed. You're not married, but you'll see. You're only spending your own money right now, not hers. Granted, she may buy you gifts, but that's different. In my situation, my wife makes more than I do, so she pays most of our bills. I pay the bills that are in my name and if I have some money left over after I put some into our savings, I may go buy myself a new car or electronic toy. I have responsibility to not only myself, but my wife as well to manage my paycheck wisely.

Having said all that, my wife is a wonderful woman. Since we've been married, we've bought a new car, TV, Nintendo Wii and various other goodies. You can buy toys, you just have to be mindful of the other person you are now legally joined with (couldn't think of another way to put it). When we got married, it wasn't like she laid down the law with "Well, things are going to be different now!". It was just the realization that I am no longer looking out for only myself.

Ok, well now I've rambled on for too long, but you get the point. Those are my thoughts, take 'em or leave 'em.

[ehidle]

I was engaged once, and as soon as she had the ring on her finger, she changed into a completely different person. It was scaaaary. I was out of that within 2 months. I know exactly what you mean, Bravnik...

This dude has no idea how lucky he is (for now).

[AutoXRacer]

Thats been my fear all along...and I drill that to her day in, day out...
I tell her all the time that she will change and things will change as soon as I say I do. She swears up and down that she won't...that it depends on the person and the relationship...which I agree to a certain point.

Does it help my case that we both make exactly the same amount of money...?

I don't know... She likes it when I mod the car...with my latest mod a Cork Sport CBE, I had her crank the engine so that I could check for leaks under the car and she had a big grin on her face when the exhaust growled, burrbled, and popped... She also goes with me to all my autocross events, she makes food, bought a 10 foot tent thing, chairs, cooler, etc...

I hope you guys are wrong with my situation... I've seen what you guys are saying with other people/couples...but I wonder if its applies to those who have the same interests...

I see the veterans at the autocross races where the husband has the fully modded Corvette or Mustang, whatever, and is taking about getting a new engine, wheels, etc...and the wife is right there with him...

I think its different when two people are in sync...

(I hope I am not wrong...) (lol2)

[EvilJen]

Thats been my fear all along...and I drill that to her day in, day out...
I tell her all the time that she will change and things will change as soon as I say I do. She swears up and down that she won't...that it depends on the person and the relationship...which I agree to a certain point.

Does it help my case that we both make exactly the same amount of money...?

I don't know... She likes it when I mod the car...with my latest mod a Cork Sport CBE, I had her crank the engine so that I could check for leaks under the car and she had a big grin on her face when the exhaust growled, burrbled, and popped... She also goes with me to all my autocross events, she makes food, bought a 10 foot tent thing, chairs, cooler, etc...

I hope you guys are wrong with my situation... I've seen what you guys are saying with other people/couples...but I wonder if its applies to those who have the same interests...

I see the veterans at the autocross races where the husband has the fully modded Corvette or Mustang, whatever, and is taking about getting a new engine, wheels, etc...and the wife is right there with him...

I think its different when two people are in sync...

(I hope I am not wrong...) (lol2)

More than likely, you're not wrong. If you've been with her long enough, you should know her well enough by now. :)

And not all women change when they get married, guys. I've been very supportive of my husband's hobbies, in fact, I was telling him NOT to sell his RX-7 project car when he worried it was taking up room in the garage.

I think "car modding" could be replaced with any hobby and as long as it's supported by your mate, your bills are paid, what's the harm in it?

I didn't know a thing about cars until I met my husband. And now, I'm happy to say he takes interest in my hobbies and I in his. :)

[SMITTNME]

I hope you guys are wrong with my situation... I've seen what you guys are saying with other people/couples...but I wonder if its applies to those who have the same interests...

I see the veterans at the autocross races where the husband has the fully modded Corvette or Mustang, whatever, and is taking about getting a new engine, wheels, etc...and the wife is right there with him...

I think its different when two people are in sync...

(I hope I am not wrong...) (lol2)

Seems like arguments typically arise about the $$ being spent b/c the other person doesn't understand why you want to buy something for "the car" (for example) b/c they aren't interested in cars and vice versa for their hobbies.

But in your case, I think things will be the same for you guys, especially b/c you do share common interests. Now, when you are married, you may be arguing over who gets what mod first lol, since it'll be your shared money to spend :)

[zoomzone]

I don't know what you're into, but try Birra Moretti (Italian), Sapporo (Japanese) Stella Artois (Belgium), & Smithwicks (Irish). Some of my favorite beers currently.


Full Sail brewery from Oregon makes some of the tastiest beers I've had. Magic Hat no.9 is damn good too, but we don't get it here in OK.

[DeanSweet]

My wife pretty much lets me do anything I want to my cars (been with her for 25 years and I am 40 so she knows I am a car crazy)but as our kids get older (read in closer to college) I have noticed I have altered my spending a bit towards the toys...

[jaydubz]

All my wife gave me was her heart. By heart I mean "herpes".

WOW! Sorry about that man!



Is there any question why I love this woman?

You my friend are a very lucky man! Remeber to do something nice for her as not to forget her kindness. My significant other would not tolerate that but rather divert the funds to something more home related or relative to the future.

[Sierra117]

Am I the only one who sees whats really going on here? Its a fucking trap, man!

*A few months from now*

"Baby, I really want to get this for the apartment/house/adobe hut."
"But hun, its really expensive, I dunno..."
"Baby, remember when I let you get all that stuff for your car?"

[ghettoracingkid]

as a married man......

Itsi sa partnership a union of 2 lives living as 1.

that means everything being spent in the house and everything earned for the hosue should at least somewhat be agreed upon.

While I have always had my hobbies and sometimes she has agreed with them and sometimes there wa some resistance but the money was always spent wisely.

You need to think.... Can this wait? Is this a the right time? how important is this?

Like others have said you need to make sure its nothing that is going to effect your way of living. Have your bills paid and food in the house and all that before you start thinking about a mod or such. becuase you are now 2 people and responsible for each other not jsut yourself

[Kobyoshi]

Sunday morning we're lying around talking and the subject of the SP3 comes up. She knows I'm trying to figure out how to budget in new rims for it.
She says, "didn't you want to get springs or something for it too?". Almost any other woman and this would be a prelude to, "you need to make up your mind what you want." Then she says, "we're selling your bike because you got tired of dodging idiots in cars who aren't paying attention. Can you buy the rims and tires if you take whatever is left over from selling the bike after we pay the note?" My ex-wife would have already had that money allocated to stuff she wanted for the house. This woman has the simple (and fair) notion that money from one of my toys should rightfully go to one of my other toys.
Later we're in the car and she asks if I decided which tires to get. I explain that I want Falken 615 but I can't even pretend that they are a reasonable year round tire for North Carolina. Fortunately, the same company makes another tire that handles almost as well and I could make them go year round (452). She thinks on that for a few seconds and says, "if you're going to get new rims, why don't you get the tires you really want on those and put winter tires on the factory rims?"
Is there any question why I love this woman?

In my best Austin Powers voice...

"She's a man, baby..."

;)

[Kobyoshi]

You're not Married. All that shit you get away with changes the moment you get Married. Slowly, but it changes. We all thought the same thing when we LIVED with our future wives. So just wait till you marry your GF and see how it changes (omg)

^ + a few million.

They become your other mother.

[08cosmic3]

I've recently ordered the Cobb intake and the Corksport MM inserts. My wife doesn't know yet. The money is not the problem as it's MODDING the brand new car that she will resist. The last time I worked on my car, a 97 Probe GT I tried to fix somethings myself and made the car worst. She will almost certainly say "remember what happened the last time you worked on the car" I'm not a bad mechanic but she will not remember all the times I worked on our cars sucessfully, only the last time when I screwed it up. I'm not going to tell her about the mods but I'm almost certain she will notice the different sound of the Cobb intake when she drives it.

What do I tell her?

(1) It's CHEAP HP honey.
(2) What sound? I don't hear anything dear.
(3) I'm the man, I'll do what I want.

I'm not sure yet but it will most certainly not be #3. Wupped.

[mazdaspeed32007]

swampass is always there for a good laugh. you fucking crack me up dude. i look forward to your comments in every thread i find. i seriously tell people about some of the comments you have in this place. your def a funny bastard.

[SwampAss]

I blame liberal drug usage in my formative years. Nothing now though! Cept Claritan D. Feckin pollen.

[mazdaspeed32007]

I blame liberal drug usage in my formative years. Nothing now though! Cept Claritan D. Feckin pollen.

i think if i ever met you at a meet i wouldnt see anything but that damn donkey. lol. i would bring a donkey mask for you to wear because it is now your trademark.

[StealthWyvern]

Man some of you guys are lucky bastards! I make roughly 2-3 times the amoumt my gf does and pay all the bills (she lives with me) and yet she still btiches when i get crap for my car!

She doesn't get that its a hobbie and that i only sink maybe 3-400 every 6 or so months into the car if even that much!!!

[mazdaspeed32007]

what a bitch. i make less than my girl...only by a thousand or so...just throwing that out there...and she doesnt have a care on where MY money goes. as long as i pay my bills and have a little extra it doesnt matter. shit...i just bought a forge bov, custom TBE, tint all around, rims and tires.....i know im forgetting something....in the past week!!!!!!!!!!!!! she was like...w/e....your gay. hahahahahahahhaa. fucking slut. but shes my slut.

[Jaysanooch]

Mine gave me the old.."it's my money" the other day after I made a comment on wtf just happened. We went to get her a "set of dumbells" at fitness depot and left with a friggin' home gym.

I can't say anything though...cause I'm 10 x worst! When she asks I have a habit of dividing the amounts by 3 or 4 sometimes. Good thing she knows nothing about cars.

[dkswim]

some women get it some dont

[StealthWyvern]

some women get it most dont

fixed!!!(yupnope)

[neox.286]

Im most definately not married

but I can notice when girls are interested in cars and when they are not....Ive dated girls that dont understand the car at all, then Ive dated girls that understand but dont care personally, then Ive dated girls that want me to teach them everything I know and want to actually help with the wrench-turning

for me, the car is a big part of me....its what I love, and something that isnt going to die out much with age....I have plenty of other skills that I can use to earn a living with, and I can manage my money wisely, but the car is one of my two major outlets that I cant get enough of (the other is playing music)

if the girl cant understand or respect that, and if she will start arguements because I wanna do stuff to my car, then I just couldnt imagine being able to get along with her...ya know?

to the O.P.: you are a lucky man! the best Ive found so far is the girls that wanna help work on the car, but yours takes it to a new level by being interested in helping decide what you wanna do next =D

just be careful that she isnt buttering you up for something bigger haha

[shockdoctor]

Man, does she have any unmarried sisters?

[CantCMe]

what a bitch. i make less than my girl...only by a thousand or so...just throwing that out there...and she doesnt have a care on where MY money goes. as long as i pay my bills and have a little extra it doesnt matter. shit...i just bought a forge bov, custom TBE, tint all around, rims and tires.....i know im forgetting something....in the past week!!!!!!!!!!!!! she was like...w/e....your gay. hahahahahahahhaa. fucking slut. but shes my slut.

wow...

[Mid_Life_Crisis]

What do I tell her?

(1) It's CHEAP HP honey.
(2) What sound? I don't hear anything dear.
(3) I'm the man, I'll do what I want.

I'm not sure yet but it will most certainly not be #3. Wupped.

(4) It'll gain us 2 mpg over stock honey. I did it for the environment and because it'll save us money in the long run.

[CantCMe]

All I say is "I need to get that fixed."

[Mid_Life_Crisis]

I wasn't going to mention it because it isn't important to either of us, but everybody keeps mentioning income. She makes 6 figures (3 times what I earn) and works from home, so I know where she is all the time. No worries about somebody trying to steal my sweetie.

[mckraut]

what a bitch. i make less than my girl...only by a thousand or so...just throwing that out there...and she doesnt have a care on where MY money goes. as long as i pay my bills and have a little extra it doesnt matter. shit...i just bought a forge bov, custom TBE, tint all around, rims and tires.....i know im forgetting something....in the past week!!!!!!!!!!!!! she was like...w/e....your gay. hahahahahahahhaa. fucking slut. but shes my slut.

What a charmer.

[SMITTNME]

What a charmer.

+1

[Foolish]

My ex-wife would have already had that money allocated to stuff she wanted for the house. This woman has the simple (and fair) notion that money from one of my toys should rightfully go to one of my other toys.
You know, you did the right thing here. I'm going to divorce my wife...

She thinks on that for a few seconds and says, "if you're going to get new rims, why don't you get the tires you really want on those and put winter tires on the factory rims?"
Is there any question why I love this woman?
...and run off with yours! ;) You're a lucky man. :D


Man some of you guys are lucky bastards! I make roughly 2-3 times the amoumt my gf does and pay all the bills (she lives with me) and yet she still btiches when i get crap for my car!

She doesn't get that its a hobbie and that i only sink maybe 3-400 every 6 or so months into the car if even that much!!!

As, for you, young Wyvern: Don't marry this one! It will only get worse, and while it seems like a minor thing, a (relatively) minor thing like that can really grate on your nerves and make you bitter after a few years. Buy me some drinks and ask me how I know! (sad1)

[mazdaspeed32007]

hey i charm where it matters.......

ie: in bed.

correction: not in bed.

[Mid_Life_Crisis]

Man some of you guys are lucky bastards! I make roughly 2-3 times the amoumt my gf does and pay all the bills (she lives with me) and yet she still btiches when i get crap for my car!
Because you didn't spend it on her...


She doesn't get that its a hobbie and that i only sink maybe 3-400 every 6 or so months into the car if even that much!!!
Tell her to be glad you're spending it on your car and not on another woman.

From the tone of your post, I hope you are at least half joking and if not, she had better be able to suck the chrome off a trailer hitch, or why keep her around?

[mx-p5]

I feel pretty lucky with my wife. She's into her Pro5 as well. Sometimes it actually sucks though, cause, I get parts for my car, and, she gets jealous, so, I gotta get the same parts for her car.

She doesn't understand the "My money from selling my bike" thing though. I sold my bike I had had for years before we got together, and, she wanted to snatch that to buy furniture for the house. Said, "Sorry, but, it was my toy, and I want the money to buy toys for my new toy."

She understands though. She's actually pushing me to find a new set of rims/tires so she can have my current ones.

[SMITTNME]

Sometimes it actually sucks though, cause, I get parts for my car, and, she gets jealous, so, I gotta get the same parts for her car.

Haha that is totally my bf and I. When we had the same car, it was hard when one got one thing that the other wanted lol And geez, getting ready for car shows was terrible! lol

Now we have COMPLETELY different cars and are less into "showing" them, so it works out a lil better :)

[Mid_Life_Crisis]

Haha that is totally my bf and I. When we had the same car, it was hard when one got one thing that the other wanted lol And geez, getting ready for car shows was terrible! lol

Now we have COMPLETELY different cars and are less into "showing" them, so it works out a lil better :)

I'm lucky there too. My wife is a "truckin woman". She just bought a new Quad cab Ram with the variable displacement hemi (we have three dogs and a 12 year old boy so the space comes in handy). She insists on taking the truck everywhere we go because my car isn't as comfortable for both of us at the same time (tiny little armrest/center console). Every time she starts it she says (cue shit eating grin) "I love my truck". My response is always, "that's good, because you're gonna have it a looooong time."